There are times when all of us feel our feelings so strongly that we feel like a volcano that could erupt at any minute. May be someone said something that hurt your feelings or upset you. You can feel your muscles tense and your heart starts to beat really fast. You might break out in a sweat and you can feel that anger rise in your throat like the lava rises in a volcano before it erupts. Like steam coming out of the volcano as a warning sign before the eruption, these changes in our bodies are warning signs for us to take action. We need to notice the anger starting to rise up and do something to calm down so we don't erupt. Like volcanic eruptions, anger outbursts often are destructive. They hurt our relationships with people, often people we care about.
So what can you do?
First notice the changes in your body the next time you start to get upset or angry.
Do you feel your heart racing?
Does your stomach hurt?
Do you feel tense all over?
Then take some action to calm down.
Go to a cooling off space, a place you decide on where you can calm down.
When you get there, listen to music, draw a picture, think calm thoughts.
If possible, get some fresh air and exercise to burn off some of that steam.
Take a hot shower or warm bath.
If you can't go to an actual cooling off space, go to a safe place in your mind, a memory of a safe place
where you have been before.
Once you have become calmer, then you can think about what you might like to do to solve the problem.
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